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There Are Only Moments

There are no geniuses, only moments of genius. There are no fools, only moments of foolishness. There are no happy campers – only moments of happiness. There are no villains, only moments of villainy. There are no saviours, only moments of salvation. There are no...

4 Words to Ban From Your Vocabulary Forever

I’m endlessly fascinated by words. Why are some words powerful enough to lift our spirits, while others can deflate us in a single breath? Words can fill us with confidence and life energy, while others tire us and cloud us with doubt. Even among synonyms, there’s...

The 3 Levels of Truth – Thought, Feeling, Action

The 3 Levels of Truth I recently read the book “Blue Truth” by David Deida. One of the chapters – entitled “Live Your Heart’s Truth” – offered such a well-articulated insight, that I had to put the book down and start laughing (while my wife looked on, puzzled). It...

How To Call Forward The Best In Yourself

For the last few months, my wife and I have been experimenting with a new morning habit. First thing after waking up, we now make a conscious decision about who we’re choosing to be that day. It’s as simple as asking each other, “Who are you today?” Don’t be worried…...

Travelling, Fast and Slow

At the present moment, my wife and I are on mini-sabbatical. We decided to hit pause on work and try out the ‘digital nomad’ lifestyle, so I’m writing this from a quiet apartment on the outskirts of Krabi, Thailand. It’s not a particularly nice apartment. It’s a...

The Simple Power of Writing Down Commitments

Already, two months have flown by since 2022 kicked off - and for many, this means New Year’s Resolutions are a distant memory (we’ve all been there). During my monthly review, I like to reflect on the commitments I currently hold. And while there’s always room for...

How To Discover Your Purpose — 3 Helpful Guidelines

For all the heartache it led to, the coronavirus pandemic was also an unexpected blessing for many. It forced us to slow down and pause, perhaps for the first time. One outcome I’ve noticed is an undeniable shift in our collective values. Like butterflies bursting out...

5 Important Job Satisfaction Factors, Explained

Society has moved on from the idea of a ‘job for life’. This is great news! People now recognise their freedom to let go of roles that don't align with their nature, or that stifle them in some other way. But a substantial challenge remains: identifying the kinds of...

The Truth About ‘Fulfilment’ – And The 3 Myths Holding You Back

"If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer." The word ‘fulfilment’ is embedded into our everyday language. It crops up as we imagine what a better future could look like - we speak of wanting a fulfilling...

‘Follow your Passion’ vs ‘Master your Craft’ – Which to choose?

When charting a direction for our career, it’s easy to feel caught between a rock and a hard place. After all, the current landscape of career advice seems to divide us into two opposing camps: The ‘follow your passion’ camp: this side reassures us that everything...

Why I Decided To Leave Medicine (When I’d Only Just Begun)

As with any break-up, we grow from processing how and why the relationship came to a close. Fleshing out narratives can help a great deal when turning over a new leaf and creating the future from a truly blank slate. This article summarises my own understanding of why...

3 Ways to Create Your Life (Choose Wisely)

Do you have a reliable framework for making big decisions? Most people don't; they end up following whichever emotions feel most dominant. But one of the most useful things you can do when contemplating any life transition is to intentionally reflect on your past...

5 Unusual Ways to Leave Your Comfort Zone

I struggle to resist the siren songs of comfort. To me, it’s that feeling of settling into a warm bath on a winter’s evening, or cosying up to a favourite TV show with a warm drink. Those things aren't 'bad', but the problem is that comfort and growth are somewhat...

A Gentle Peak Through The Gates Of Your Own Private Hell

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the idea of hell. I know that’s not your usual icebreaker, so stay with me here. I’m not referring to the biblical Hell, with a capital H. I’m talking instead about hell in the metaphorical sense. The version that is individual,...

When Did You Last Do… Nothing?

Until recently, I've lived most of my adult life under the spell of to-do lists. On some level, I believed that fulfilment is the fruit of busyness, target-setting and goal achievement. After all, success and happiness depend on consistent action - right? This is a...

3 Life Lessons From My Favourite Film

I first watched the The Truman Show as an 8-year old boy, and it put me into an immediate trance. I love hunting for the symbols and deeper meanings in film. This one is packed with them. Reflecting on this multi-layered masterpiece today, I’ve come to resonate with...

Hold Your Beliefs About ‘Work’ And ‘Meaning’ Lightly

It’s easy to get entangled in our beliefs about 'work' and 'meaning'. I recently coached a woman in her mid-20’s. Now growing into her spiritual side, she was beginning to sense a disconnect between the meaning she wanted from her career, and the reality of her...

100 Ways to Change the World

Being hungry for a life calling, or sense of purpose, can be downright frustrating. We're not often taught how to navigate the odd feeling that is desiring to know what we desire. Having little clue about what to focus on can even feel paralysing. Without direction,...

No, Not Everyone Needs a Life Calling

I've noticed a need for more acceptance - both in myself and in others – about the way we talk about work. One area people get hung up on is whether we’re all supposed to discover our 'life calling’. It’s the rare person who knew they wanted to be a fireman at age 5,...

Your Purpose Isn’t Out There – It’s In Here

There's something misleading about the way we talk about 'purpose'. People often speak of finding purpose -- like they're shopping for new shoes, or sourcing a rare collectible. This is more than just a quirk of semantics; our language shapes how we perceive the...

The World Needs Your Unique Brand Of Genius

I recently put together an article for the blog PositivePsychology.com on exactly what it takes to have a satisfying, fulfilling job. After hours poring over the literature, hunting for all the criteria, I whittled it down to 6 core ingredients. Perhaps...

5 Signs I Needed To Break Up With My Career

We are all in relationship with everything that exists in our lives… Our partners. Our kids. Our houses. Our bank balances. Our nations. Our sense of worth. Our identity. Our jobs. All of these relationships can change for the better or worse. Often they change too...

Here’s Step 1 For Finding Your Calling

Here’s a question for you: When you were a kid, what did you want to be? If very little comes up, don’t be surprised - this question often puts people under pressure. And when something does emerge, it usually takes the form a sugar-coated anecdote. Let’s try a...

Who Will You Become – Angel, Vampire or Zombie?

As a doctor, I was fortunate enough to learn from some incredible mentors. These were the people who lived and breathed medicine. They were willing to make regular sacrifices to go above and beyond. And they knew exactly what they were on this planet to do. I looked...

The Neverending Quest for Greener Grass

I love a catchy saying. Several years ago, someone once told me: “Oli, the grass is greener where you water it” ‘Woah…’, I thought. ‘What an inspiring way to live’. From then on, the idea of nurturing opportunities already in front of me took root in my psyche. And...

To Figure Out Your Path, Start With A Single Value

I’m a diehard Marvel fan. Recently, I was re-watching the film Avengers: Endgame. In one scene Thor meets his mother, Frigga, who gives him a much-needed pep talk: “Everyone fails at being who they’re supposed to be. The measure of a person, of a hero, is how well...

The Hidden Benefits of Shiny Object Syndrome

Magpies are considered one of the world's smartest creature. Not only can they imitate human speech, but they can also work in teams, play games and even make tools. Although associated with an attraction to all things shiny, magpies are actually unsettled by...

How To Escape Your ‘Career Double Life’

Graduation Day. The culmination of 6 years of gruelling study. I had passed my finals and actually qualified as a real-life doctor. With the sun shining, my peers buzzing and my family beaming with pride, you’d think this would be a joyous moment in my life. But...

Make Jealousy Into a Gift, Not a Curse

I’m no stranger to feeling jealous. I can remember that familiar gnawing sensation it can bring, especially during my last couple of years at school. The feeling of being on the outside looking in. The year before, at age 15, I had gone to the school Career Fair with...

3 Life Lessons from the Biggest Mistake of My Career

As a doctor, the need to work at breakneck speeds in chaotic environments could feel overwhelming. And as an introvert who isn’t a gifted multitasker, this meant plenty of internal struggle. Often, just a single chink in the chain would drastically alter my day,...

3 Types of Journal to Clarify Your Perfect Career

Towards the end of my time as a doctor, there came a point when the same thought loops would play out in my mind, over and over: I’m clearly not happy in medicine - when am I going to leave? Wait, wait, that’s crazy! Do I really want to leave yet? If I did leave, what...

Why a Growth Mindset Is Essential for Success (With 10 Examples)

Some ideas are like a portal to a new reality – they create paradigm shifts. For me, the growth mindset has been one of them. Learning about it has been an instrumental factor in letting go of several unhelpful beliefs. In this post, I’ll first cover what the growth...

“The ONE Thing” by Gary Keller – Book Review

“When you gamble with your time, you may be placing a bet you can’t cover.” Is your to-do list an endless jumble of tasks? Constantly juggling projects without making much progress? Or even worse, are you stuck in analysis paralysis mode as you face a career...

The Quickest Way To Break Bad Habits

My passion for personal development kicked-off around 15 years ago, in my teen years. One of the first ways this showed up was my attempts to break bad habits. I would make bets with myself. I once challenged myself to stop eating crisps for an entire year, and...

4 Types of Habit to Build a Rock-Solid Life

"We first make our habits, then our habits make us." It’s hard to get much done without supporting habits in place. Routines make or break us. They can make us feel sluggish, or they can free up energy for our most sophisticated, creative thinking. I’ve talked about...

Practical Meditation Tips and Techniques (for Beginners)

I’ve abandoned and returned to meditation several times over the years. I used to find even 5 minutes per day hard to fit in. Not because I didn’t have them to spare, but because slowing down to pay attention is counterintuitive in today’s world. The path of least...

6 Unexpected Benefits of Budgeting

"A part of all you earn is yours to keep... pay yourself first." A few years back I read the above quote in The Richest Man in Babylon, a short collection of parables set 4,000 years ago. It’s one of my favourite financial books, epitomising timeless advice on how to...